The Feminine Art of Fearless Confidence

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I recently hosted a webinar where I explore and define what fearless confidence is from an embodied feminine perspective.  

If you’re wondering how to feel safe in the world, how to put yourself first without feeling selfish, or how to trust yourself more, this will offer some simple insights and tools to help you feel more confident and in your power as a woman.  

Beyond the masks of false confidence lie deep feminine wisdoms that help you express true confidence from the inside out.  

I talk about 3 keys to confidence:

1) Knowing your self

2) Listening to your body

3) Practicing discernment

I also share a lovely meditation practice to help you embody the energy of a confident woman.

Reframing ENVY and Why Feeling It Can Be Awesome

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Ever felt green-eyed with envy?

Yeah, me too.  

(Welcome to the human experience!)

I recently felt something uncomfortable when witnessing things that some of my friends have that I don't.  I was unsure of whether to call it jealously or envy.  

Upon looking up the definitions, I came across this great description on the Psychology Today website.  It says:  ".....envy is a two-person situation whereas jealousy is a three-person situation. Envy is a reaction to lacking something. Jealousy is a reaction to the threat of losing something (usually someone)".

I realized that what I was feeling was purely envy.  And I actually came to enjoy it.  

Check out the short video below to learn 2 powerful gifts that envy has to give.

Boundaries That Bring You Back to Life Again - Webinar Replay

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I had the pleasure of hosting a webinar last week on boundaries.  What a rich terrain to explore!

Here’s a taste of what was covered:

-The challenges of not having boundaries

-The beautiful possibilities of what it’s like to have them and how that could greatly benefit your life

-A new, empowered, and embodied exploration of what boundaries actually are when you’re coming from a deep feminine place

-3 simple yet powerful tools to support you in creating boundaries from your center, including a lovely guided meditation

Click below to watch the webinar

The recording got cut off at the end (thanks to Mercury in retrograde, perhaps?) right as I was wrapping up, but I think it ended in a good place.

If you'd like support on creating healthy boundaries for yourself, schedule a discovery call with me by clicking here.

The Dirty Truth About Self-Care No-one Talks About

Self-care. In reading those words, what comes to mind? Bubble baths, pedicures, a glass of wine with friends? Or maybe it’s like this - drinking a green smoothie, taking a walk in nature, or getting enough sleep. All of this is good stuff, stuff that can replenish you and bring a smile to your face. It feels good when you do it. That’s the shiny side of self-care, the rosy cheeked cherub of things going easy and well.

What if I told you that self-care had a flip side, a dark cousin, a hundred pound weight that it carries around?

Well, it does. And I’ll call it Mr. Fomo (as in fear of missing out). I discovered Mr. Fomo in the last few years while I’ve been practicing a devotion to self-care. This devotion came from need - I was tired, overwhelmed, feeling stuck and burnt out from how I had been living life. It became clear that the only way forward was to really devote myself to what my body needed. Period. 

It all started pretty well. I ate healthy, took walks in the park, started going to bed earlier and began a mediation practice. Ahhh, that felt good, and it gave me more brightness and ease. And then I started noticing Mr. Fomo. There was a night when a fun sounding party was happening that started at 9, but I was going to bed at 10:30. I got an invite to a potluck, but there was sure to be very little I would actually want to eat. There was the opportunity to go on a hike, but I was really needing to rest. A cool workshop was happening, but it was my moontime.

One night in particular, there was a gathering of friends I had wanted to attend. I was longing for connection and it sounded like fun. But when I really checked in with myself and my body, I just needed to take it easy and go to bed early. Damn.

The pull of something fun and connecting collided with the truth of what I actually needed.

I found myself being upset, and wrote this: 

“Self-care ain’t all bubblebaths and roses. Sometimes it’s damn hard. Sometimes it’s isolating. Sometimes I just want to throw in the towel and not care. Sometimes I cry because my body needs rest, but my spirit wants to go out for the night. Self-care ain’t for the faint of heart. It requires deep devotion and a service to the bigger picture of a healthy and grounded life.”

You see, self-care is both saying YES to things that nurture and support you, and saying NO to things that drain or deplete you.

I’ve made my body the expert in this realm, and it hasn’t always aligned with what my heart and spirit want.  


That’s Mr. Fomo at work - he wants to do all the cool stuff anytime it comes up. He wants to say F it to self-care, let’s go have fun. And sure, doing that sometimes is healthy and good, but doing it all the time is no bueno. 

The dirty truth about self-care is that it can be damn hard at times. And that’s part of the journey. So I say put on those really comfy big girl panties and know that it will be a full spectrum experience.

Keep at it when it gets hard, and revel in the bubble baths and roses whenever you can.

You Have Permission to Slow the F*#k Down!

You don't need it, and you can certainly give it to yourself. But if it helps to hear it from outside yourself: You have permission to slow the F down during winter. 

In this time, days are short, nights are long, temperatures are cold. Stars shine bright in the lingering dark skies and mugs are filled with hot tea (milk and honey too, if you please). It’s the time when nature slows her pace to an imperceptible crawl towards spring. She withdraws her buoyant energy to conserve resources and grow the sugary sap that is to be life for the bright seasons ahead. Animals hibernate, slowing their breathing and deeply sleeping for months. Trees, bare since late fall, stand stark against the bright blue winter horizon dreaming of their slowly growing buds.

All, it seems, has slowed down to deeply rest.

But what about us? In this season of winter, how are we using our energy? 

Culturally, this is a time of go and go and go and go some more to shop, cook and show up at dinners, holidays and celebrations.

I'm not talking about what culture wants though, I'm talking about what your body wants right now, as we’ve just entered winter. 

If you really listen to her, and I mean really, what is she telling you right now?

How much rest does she need, how much of what kind of food and water, how much quiet and how much daydreaming?

If you haven’t asked until now, your innocent body will forgive you and willingly share what is needed. She adores it when you listen to her. There is much to be heard in the subtleties of her language. 

This is an invitation to you.

Come on in to winter. Slow down. Ask your body what she needs. And then give it to her.

I wish for you, in this new year, to have a rich and loving relationship with your body. She IS you, she is a reflection of you, and she is what wraps you up into being a human on this planet. 

Love her deeply, show compassion, and tend to her radiance with devotion. The rewards will be abundant.